Wednesday, November 15, 2006

A prayer for your wedding....

"May Christ, Truth, be present at every bridal altar
to turn the water into wine and to give to
human life an inspiration by which man's spiritual
and eternal existence may be discerned.

- Mary Baker Eddy


Someone I care for dearly is being married this weekend.  This has inspired me to revisit the above statement from the Chapter "Marriage" in Mary Baker Eddy's Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures, and ponder its message, not only in reference to their marriage, but to all marriages...including my own.

At a time when reality television offers us a peek into the best and the worst of weddings through programming as sweet as TLC's A Wedding Story, to the most uncharitable kind of voyeurism through the lens of Lifetime's Bridezilla, this statement provides a spiritual grounding that brings me peace as I ponder this step for any couple.

Eddy's prayer (and I like to think of this statement as a prayer) asks that Christ be present at
every bridal altar...from simple vows taken and given in a silent chapel to the elaborate drama of a hollywood gala with helicopters circling...from one performed in the dust of an African village to one officiated in a Scottish castle...from a first marriage with bride and groom having dated only eachother since middle school to the fourth marriage of an octogenarian who met her beloved while in a wheelchair aerobics class....each and every bridal altar deserves the benediction of Christ, Truth's presence turning the water into wine.  Turning that which refreshes hope and cleanses the palate of all that is in the past, into that which is inspiring and gives one deep and profound opportunities today for "growth in grace....patience, meekness, love and good deeds"...for being ripened and matured through love's great desire to live "with another" in communion and cooperation as husband and wife.  

This statement has caused me, this week, to think about what makes
every bridal altar so deserving of this prayer....and my prayer has led me to one word....hope.   It takes remarkable hope to approach the bridal altar...hope that self can be subdued by love, hope that grace will reign in our hearts and  homes, hope that our lives will be an inspiration of hope to others who may feel gun-shy or weary....who may have given up dreams or are protecting tender hearts from possible hurt. 

So today I am celebrating hope with dear ones....the children who hope their parents have found their "one true love" this time around, parents who pray their daughters and sons will be cherished and supported in their dreams and desires, friends and families who hope their loved ones will be
in love "forever and ever, amen" as Randy Travis sings.

One of my favorite lyricists, Don Henley, sings his prayer in the wedding song, "
For My Wedding," that was written for his own marriage.  This song speaks to the hope that I pray we all bring to the altar...it has been my prayer each day since the first time I heard it on the radio a few years ago:

To want what I have
To take what I'm given with grace
For this I pray
On my wedding day

For my wedding, I don't want violins
Or sentimental songs about thick and thin
I want a moment of silence and a moment of prayer
For the love we'll need to make it in the world out there

To want what I have
To take what I'm given with grace
For this I pray
On my wedding day
On my wedding day

I dream, and my dreams are all glory and light
That's what I've wanted for my life
And if it hasn't always been that way
Well, I can dream and I can pray
On my wedding day

So what makes us any different from all the others
Who have tried and failed before us
Maybe nothing, maybe nothing at all
But I pray we're the lucky ones; I pray we never fall

To want what we have
To take what we're given with grace
For these things I pray
On my wedding day
On my wedding day
 

Dearest ones, on your wedding day, when you are making a "sanctuary of your heart"  I pray you are blessed with many things...great love, profound kindness, deep faith, persistent patience, abiding tenderness...but most of all...hope. Recently someone share this definition of "hope" with me:

"to trust an unknown future to a known God"


For this I pray...on your wedding day.

with all my love,

K

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